"hom sup lo" means pervert in cantonese.

what's a "skigg"?

suggestions for talking/not talking about escorting (keeping on the DL)

1. don't talk about this blog in public.
2. don't talk about escorting in public.
3. don't lie about escorting, but don't promote it.
(alternative answers...hung out with town friends, friends of friends, going to a chinese new year dinner, kicking it with unemployed folks.)
4. don't list for other people all the lumps guys doing it.
it's up to your own discression who you personally share with, but don't spread news about others. i'm cautiously trying to prevent gossip that could be bad.
5. don't check this blog on other people's computers.

if i didn't tell you before...here's some stuff to set your expectations and hopes for the escort experience. some stuff said at the meeting. and some stuff from a brother's pov for you guys. my hopes in bringing a bunch of lumps guys in. why i did it...

expectations for the girls

- don't expect a bunch of wanna be models. most of the girls are probably far from that. lotta normal girls you wouldn't expect.

- don't go expecting to date the girls. nearly all of em have bf's. and odds are against you if that you'd find someone to have a meaningful lasting relationship with, especially if you want a christian.

what you'll come away with

- a really unique cultural experience

- a good time bonding with the fellas

- meeting lots of people you normally would never have contact with, outside of your christian bubble

- gentlemenly ettiquette and chivelry pounded into you til it's second nature

- knowledge of how to really impress girls and treat them right

living real in the world

- this is a pretty secular environment way different from the lumps bubble, but hey...welcome to the real world. most of the people you meet aren't christian and do lots of things you would never do. you'll be subject to talk about birth control, living with the boyfriends, strip clubs, porn stuff, getting wasted, getting high, etc. also not just the sinful pleasures of the flesh stuff, but also faults of the heart. things like people being judgmental, exclusive, cliquish, gossipy, unfair, and treating people entirely on looks. (at least my observations.) my hope is that in this real, broken world we can live real as christians. be in the world, but not like it.

- be a living testimony. it's like being in the dorms. people are watching you all the time, and how you live and treat people makes for a huge witness.

- in the really obvious things: praying before meals, sharing how we know each other, what you do on weekends, what you do at lumps, what you were involved in during college

- in the really subtle thiings: not joking around in the same dirty manner as others, not always gawking and staring at the girls. don't be a hom sup lo, being attentive not just to the popular winners, but also the less pretty plainer girls. overall...to maintain your faith and convictions out in the world.

why i did it for three years

- to get outta my comfortable christian bubble and meet more people
- to have a really great cultural experience
- to have a great bonding time with my buds doing this (the activities together, talking about it offline, and stuff in the months to come)
- to have fun hangin out with some cute, fun girls
- to develop friendships with some non-christians, develop some community with some of my friends, and hopefully somehow let god be glorified in the relationships. letting people who are away from him draw a little closer to him. see what christians are like. how we can be cool and how we are different.

i think it's all about living real out there in the world. during the two weeks, living as a christian, i've actually had more talks and opportuinties to share about faith and what i believe in, than i did all the other 50 weeks of the year combined.

that's pretty much it. i hope you guys have a really great, fun time...and in the midst of it be mindful and purposeful in the way you act with the people you meet. believe it or not, god will stretch you during the two weeks. even after three years of experience...i know i'll need you guys to keep me accountable to everything that i just said.

even though we're trying to be on the d/l for this, i hope we can still hold each other up to live faithfully and consistantly in our walks.

we noticed that there are quite a few from the fremont area for you, mr. fu. you can have lots of new friends to hang out with.

i got a dv camera too, so we could get some good shots for a video with 2 cameras.

sup foos! i missed the meeting, but i want my share of the left over pizzas! i got the scoop though from greg, so everything should be cool.

i think it'll be interesting seeing how my buds relate to the other non-lumps guys and the girls. for me, the pagaent experience has always been good educational ones for me, in that i meet so many new people in a short period of time. especially when it comes to girls, you start to realize what types of first impressions you give off and how you compare to other guys. how well you can carry on a conversation. tons and tons of practice making the introductory small talk and trying to find something more substantial. i think after a few years, i've gotten it down. however, every year i've always been noticed as sorta quiet. not something i really love.

expounding on the escort experience

last year i was thinking about trying to do a video documentary or something of the escort experience. i doubt that would be very practical tho. didn't get around to it. i would like to record the experience somehow, cuz it's such a novel thing. we're like gentlemen/service-frat-guys/servants/bell-boys/waiters/walking-service-escorts/camp-counselors. i don't think there's any other experience like it.

i think it'll be totally cool tho if we can record our impressions with photos and blogging tho. don't use real names. use initals or nicknames or something. i bet i'll come away with like 800 photos on my camera. i think i've mastered the stealth shot.

i'll post some of my reflections from the past years too. this is something i definitely wanna blog about, but don't really wanna put it in such detail on my main site. :P

at one point last year i was thinking about submitting an article for A magazine or yolk magazine. i bet they would pay for the insider's view of this.

hey...also record here the reactions and questions you get from outsiders about this escort thing.

i'd maybe try to stay away from writing trash talk about other people. you never know...

actually i was kinda surprised by the age of these veteran escorts and some of the even older ones still involved in this service. i had originally thought that doing things like looking after pageant girls, doing the dirty work and getting free meals would only appeal to younger guys, and that i'd probably be one of the older ones. well, i'm still intrigued to see so many old guys at the meeting and look forward to discovering what keeps them coming back year after year.

birth of the boys' blog

blog here guys! a place to record and share the experiences and adventures of the chinatown experience. what did you guys think of the meeting and the people you met? thoughts or impressions?